Before you can apply to court for most family matters, you are legally required to attend something called a MIAM a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting. For many people, this is the first time they've ever spoken to a mediator, and not knowing what to expect can make it feel daunting. It shouldn't be. This guide explains exactly what happens, so you can walk in feeling prepared.
💡 A MIAM is not the start of mediation it's a private, one-to-one meeting with a mediator to see whether mediation is right for you. There is no pressure to proceed.
What Is a MIAM?
MIAM stands for Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting. It was introduced by the government to ensure that separating couples consider mediation before heading to the family court. Since April 2014, attending a MIAM (or qualifying for an exemption) has been a legal requirement before making most applications to the family court in England and Wales.
The meeting is individual you and the mediator, without the other party present. This means you can speak honestly about your situation without feeling intimidated. Your ex-partner will typically be invited to attend their own separate MIAM with the same mediator.
What Happens During a MIAM?
Your MIAM will typically last between 45 minutes and one hour. Here's what to expect:
Introduction and overview. The mediator will explain what mediation is, how it works, and what the process looks like if you decide to proceed.
Your situation. The mediator will ask you to briefly describe your circumstances — what the key issues are, whether children are involved, and what you're hoping to resolve.
Assessment of suitability. The mediator will assess whether mediation is appropriate. There are some cases where it isn't such as where there has been domestic abuse or where one party is not willing to engage.
Other options explained. The mediator will walk you through all your options mediation, collaborative law, solicitor negotiation, and court.
Next steps. If mediation seems suitable, the mediator will explain what happens next and how to get the other party involved.
Do You Have to Attend Together?
No. MIAMs are almost always held separately. You attend yours, your ex-partner attends theirs. The mediator sees each of you individually so they can get a full and honest picture from both sides before recommending whether to proceed.
In some circumstances, MIAMs can be held online or by phone which is particularly useful if you live far apart or if attending in person would feel difficult.
How Much Does a MIAM Cost?
A MIAM typically costs between £100 and £200 per person, depending on the mediator and your location. This is a fixed one-off cost and is not covered by the government's £500 mediation voucher scheme the voucher only covers the sessions that follow.
Could You Qualify for Free?
If you are in receipt of certain benefits (including Universal Credit, Income Support, or JSA) you may qualify for Legal Aid, which can cover the cost of your MIAM and subsequent mediation sessions. Ask your mediator to check your eligibility at the MIAM it takes just a few minutes and many people are surprised to find they qualify.
Are There Exemptions to Attending a MIAM?
Yes. You may be exempt from attending a MIAM if any of the following apply:
- There is evidence of domestic abuse or violence in the relationship
- There is a child protection issue
- The other party is not contactable or refuses to engage
- You or your partner live overseas
- The case involves bankruptcy
- The matter is urgent (for example, an emergency court order is needed)
If you think you may be exempt, your solicitor or the mediator can advise you. Exemptions must be declared on your court application form.
What If the Other Person Won't Come?
This is one of the most common concerns. You only need to attend your own MIAM to receive your MIAM certificate even if your ex-partner refuses to attend theirs. The mediator will make reasonable efforts to contact the other party and invite them, but if they decline, you can still proceed with your court application.
What Happens After a MIAM?
One of three things typically happens:
- Mediation is recommended and you proceed. Joint sessions are arranged, usually starting within a few weeks.
- Mediation is not suitable. The mediator issues a MIAM certificate confirming this, which you can use to support a court application.
- You decide not to proceed with mediation. You receive your certificate and can pursue other routes.
📞 Ready to book your MIAM? Call Clear Path Families on 07891 098 369 or email clearpathfamilies@gmail.com. We can usually offer appointments within a week.
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At Clear Path Families, we offer MIAMs in person in Manchester and online across Greater Manchester and the North West. Our approach is relaxed, non-judgmental, and straightforward we know this can feel like a big step, and we're here to make it as easy as possible.
Your MIAM is completely confidential. Nothing you say is shared with the other party, their solicitor, or the court unless you choose to proceed with mediation.